Will i ever get to feel the joy of being a mother? I don't think so. My other half is very much against having our very own child, but not to speak of an adopt one. He prefers to raise other people's kid rather than his own. He believes that bringing up an existing life is more honourable and worthy than his own.
Everytime i hear about my friend's experience of rearing their own children, i just feel like digging another cubic space for myself because i just don't have a valid reason not to have a kid. Age is really catching up (now that i'm reaching the number 3...)and i don't think i have much time to have a child.
I don't think my husband will agree with my opinion and understand my feeling about having our own children. i can't really explain why i would love to have my very own, if i can. If i can't, due to health or other causes, i will definitely think of another way.
Living life for yourself can sometimes be a little bit boring and useless!
go for it girl! if you want a kid make the world a better place by having one and bringing it up with love ... it's noble to adopt, sure, but unless you can't conceive it seems completely crazy to deny yourself that kind of love and fulfillment in your life ...
ReplyDeletewe couldn't have kids ... he wouldn't consider adopting ... i'm fifty and deeply sad at not having a kid to pour love into ... i tell myself that i've loved all the kids i've taught (thousands!) over the years, but it isn't the same thing at all ...
adoption is so easy in malaysia ... but there is also a powerful emotional issue her that you will both have to face ... and your needs and feelings are every bit as valid as your husband's even if he can justify not wanting his own child by saying that there ae enough unwanted kids in the world ...
i regret as the biggest regret of my life that i didn't force the issue more with my husband ...
p.s. thanks for linking my blog, i hope you are having a good time in the UK
i am honoured and touched by ur kind words. thankx a million! i never stop gently persuading my husband about having a child. on the other hand, he also has to resolved his feud with his low self-esteem about his physical and biological affair.
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